You know that question you should never ask a woman unless you are completely sure?
You know? THAT question?
Well, this woman was asked that question yesterday.
I don’t know what to think about it, but here’s what happened:
I was at church. The hubby and I were sitting on a couch in the lobby, waiting for the teens to show up. An older gentleman that we see every week sat down and started chatting with us.
I mentioned that I was feeling tired (I had worked on Saturday night and didn’t sleep well).
“Oh, you’re tired? (He grinned) Are you going to be giving us some news?”
I didn’t get it, “What? What kind of news?”
“Oh,” he said, “well, my wife and I have been talking and she was saying she thought you’d be telling people that you were expecting soon.”
“Um… well, not that I’m aware of.” (Insert my jaw hitting the floor)
“Well, I thought you were saying you were tired because you were dropping a hint,” he said. “You know, you don’t want to say anything too soon…so I thought you were trying to give me a hint.”
Nervously laughing, I replied, “Well… If I was expecting, I think it would be a pretty big surprise to Ben and me… I’m just tired because I worked late last night.”
“Oh.” He paused for a moment, unsure what to say, “Well, when the time comes, at least you’ve been blessed with a great husband. That’s a huge thing.”
Nice save with the husband comment. Totally true. And I can imagine he was as mortified as I was for that mistake.
But I have to ask….
1. Why do people expect couples to start having babies right away?
Ben and I have been getting “so, when are you going to start a family?” for a long time (funny enough, this question comes from everyone but our families). Why do we have to rush? We haven’t even been married two years!
Honestly, it wouldn’t even be on our radar, except we’re asked this question all the time!
To put it simply, we aren’t ready. The fact that I even have to explain that is frustrating.
2. Does this mean I look like I am starting to show? Or is it ….something else?!
A few friends assured me it was the latter, but I’d be lying if I said that this didn’t bother me some. I’m going to chock it up to the age of the parties involved.
Let’s chat, have you ever gotten THAT question (or worse, made that mistake?!)? What did you do? What are your thoughts on marriage and babies?
PS. Second funny story: the same day, another man (who we see weekly at church) asked if I was the wife of Ben’s best friend…while Ben was standing two feet away…Really?!
You guys! Oh man, you guys! I have so many things to tell you.
First, my online class starts soon and I am beyond excited!
It’s March 21 and the ground is covered in snow. What is this crap? The joys of upstate NY living.
I have made a decision about the marathon.
I’m getting excited for racing this year.
Race planning has officially taken over my life. I admit it.
I am okay with that because I know it’s all for a great cause. And I know if James were here, he’d be so happy.
That being said… I’m still behind on blogging, so I decided to call in reinforcements. I’ve got some guest posters lined up that you are going to love. These people inspire me in so many ways and I cannot wait to introduce them to you!
My current food obsessions are as follows:
Mashed avocado with black pepper, parsley, scallions and lime juice
Giant salads with sprouts and hard-boiled eggs
Bagels. Everything bagels.
While planning a race (I’m sorry… I can’t help it), I’m learning a lot about people:
They can be incredibly kind, helpful and giving. Some days I am just overwhelmed by all the help, donations and kind gestures the race committee has received.
I’ve also found that people can be very…funny. They can be conniving, evasive and sometimes, downright rude!
But for the most part, people are good. And our group has been very blessed.
Speaking of which, we’re going to have some amazing prizes for the race. I am so excited.
Also, I love Farmer Ben. He is pretty great.
In the last month, I have been to two baby showers. That is more baby showers than I’ve been to…. ever… maybe.
I also have a wedding this weekend (and a mini college reunion!).
And a bridal shower next weekend.
When did I get so old?! And furthermore, how is it that so many of my friends have children?! I mean… I know how…. but, aren’t I still 18 years old?
Food for thought from Noelle’s Notebook.